Monday, April 7, 2014

Sometimes Someone.

I was just reading about Peaches Geldof and still thinking about LWren Scott... If one suffers from a depressive disorder, is a little over-attuned to what comes in,  and has some kind of narcissistic injury... it's impossible to convey how much not killing oneself is a daily decision, a minute by minute conversation and a kind of unending grind that... no matter how much one is met by love and support, opportunity and freedom... is always there. Some folks are fighting invisible forces every second of their lives.  The thing is wiring. It's subtle, it doesn't care much about rational thought and it's always there whispering at you no matter what you do. It makes a home of you. I hate seeing take anyone... as it so often does. The bad moment always passes but the accumulation of them can kill even the most thriving amongst us in a moment of hopelessness. We don't really (culturally) engage it beneath the surface before we toss it away as selfishness or stupidity. 
There is a way through. There are ways through.

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Time for a Tolle.

This seems pertinent to a lot of what I've been seeing come up in the office of late:

"Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you're addicted to- alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person - you are using something or somebody to cover up your pain" - Eckhart Tolle.

The underlying process in talk therapy is unconvering pain at its root... through the layers to the  original pain, and then finding a way to  feel and move through it, and to make  make narrative meaning of it. That's most often the process for most people. There are a lot of false pains and compartments... the unearthing is an endeavor. But it's ultimately to uncover and then move through pain. Life is many things, all made more difficult by undigested pain. There's that old notion that we create new pain to avoid old pain with the hopes that the old pain is pushed so far down it's made mute. I've yet to see this work for someone. It can never find quiet until it's released. It's fairly easy to identify the pain at it's root... it takes skill to get there. Reading a map and walking through a jungle are very separate endeavors.