Finding the balance.

Finding the balance in a Tweeted Facebook Pinterest world isn't easy. They're great tools for enlarging your life... and you know... also used the wrong way can make you the worst kind of invisible. I thought the qoute (above) spoke to it perfectly. Having a self is always more work than not having one. And we are good at finding the easiest route to things. I love the internet.... finding the right balance with it is interesting. What is healthy interwebbing?

The "Busy" Trap.

I came across this gem the other day in the NYT. So many of the people I treat share one common trait, the abject fear of boredom and the running away from being with the self. I try and spend a piece of every day doing nothing, and nothing bad has ever come from it. It's more that so much good jumps out
from within.

"Idleness is not just a vacation, an indulgence or a vice: it is as indespensable to the brain as vitamin D is to the body, and deprived of it we suffer a mental affliction as disfiguring as rickets. The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole, for making unexpected connections and waiting for the wild summer lightning strikes of inspiration- it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done"

New York Times Article, The Busy Trap by Tim Krieder.
http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/30/the-busy-trap/

I sent this to a few patients and friends

and so its worth putting up here because it resonates so closely with the work we do. Shame and this fundamental difficulty we all have with what it means to love oneself or accept oneself is a theme present somehow and somewhere in almost every session. Sometimes its just the faintest echo in the background and sometimes it's the work front and center in the most simple terms. We live in a culture of the self... and finding that connection to a good enough self... seems like it should be so natural and easy... and it isnt.

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